How To Put Your Life In Order Through Self Esteem
When Life Feels Like a Dead End
From time to time, some of us may go through moments in which important and difficult decisions must be made. These are moments in which the road you are following in life seems to end, like a dead end, or presents obstacles that seem to grow with each new day. These are increasing warnings that you are no longer welcome on this path or that important adjustments to continue on it are imperative and urgent.
Phases in which it may feel like you are alone and that there is no other option but to listen to the only voice that reaches your ears, the one that comes from yourself, and then make significant changes in the way you travel or start a new path, about which you have little or no information – and, worse, no guarantees.
Feeling Misunderstood – Even by Those Closest to You
You may even have people around you, but, no matter how close they are, they do not know you completely, for a logical reason: they are not you. Even if they have a genuine and positive intention to help you with advice and guidance, they do not understand you as you would like. You suddenly notice that they start speaking different languages, communication becomes impossible and then a deafening silence takes over your surroundings, even though their mouths continue to move, saying something to you – but now without sound. You can even seek support and guidance from personal development gurus, who are surfing the internet or other media, but since they are probably using their own compass as a reference, not yours, they can leave you even more lost. They may be professionals who are very clear about their own interests, not yours.
You Alone Must Make the Decision
At these crossroads in life, loneliness, silence, and often darkness, often accompanied by intimidating ghosts, begin to surround and suffocate you, leaving you with no alternative but to make a decision, alone, only in the presence of your own thoughts. And what should these thoughts be?
These should be thoughts that reduce your fears, illuminate your path and fill your lungs with oxygen, in addition to providing courage and energy for you to walk with vigor and determination, feeling like a giant within yourself.
The First Step: Self-Esteem
The first step to making decisions to live a full life is to increase your self-esteem. Knowing your talents, your value and the enormous amount of qualities you possess. But it is not just about self-knowledge, it is more than that: it is accepting, admiring and loving yourself. It is opening up and accepting the voice that comes from within you, calling you in the right direction to follow. It is believing in it, to get in touch with everything that you can become, so that one day you will reach your destination, which should bring the feeling that you are finally the right person in the right place, wherever you are. A fit that allows you to contribute positively to the world around you, leaving a positive legacy wherever you go and in everyone you touch, whether physically, with words or just thoughts.
You Are the One Responsible for Your Life
There comes a time when the only conviction and guarantee you will have is the value you see in yourself, your uniqueness, your identity, the belief that if anyone is responsible for your decisions and actions, it is you. That your success, happiness and fulfillment will come to the extent and quality of your thoughts, attitudes and initiatives, which must be supported by your own legs and not by being in the comfort of someone else's lap and protection.
Letting Go to Move Forward
There are times in life when it calls you to set out towards your destiny, not that of others. Moments when it is important for you to feel at peace, to continue without the need for all the securities you have always thought were necessary. These are circumstances that demand detachment from habits, things and people, so that the journey is light, with little luggage, but full of conviction and faith in the thoughts that whisper or even shout, asking or forcing you to embrace your nature, discovering it fully and as quickly as possible, because time may be running out.
You Are the Destination, Not the Means
An important first step for those who want and need to get their lives in order can be to increase self-esteem and realize that you are not the means to something or someone, but rather an end in yourself. That the answers to the most important questions are already within you, so that you can live the right life, yours.
It's simple: just get to know and value yourself, so that you can stop being a secret, unfortunately, often very well kept. This will also ensure that the right people are with you, those in tune, harmony and balance with your decisions, desires and dreams, in win-win relationships.
Reorganizing Life with Self-Esteem
Increasing your self-esteem will make it easier to reorganize your life, making you recognize and accept your imperfections, embrace your talents, and set the right goals aligned with your life project, so that life stops being a dark, black and white, silent film and becomes bright, colorful, with a pure, defined, and clean sound.
Having a well-developed self-esteem will make you realize that the greatest guarantee you can have in life is your confidence in yourself. This confidence will reposition and put your life in motion, on the right track, preventing delays, breakdowns, derailments – and worst of all: preventing you from realizing at the end of the journey that you have arrived at the wrong station, with no time for a new journey. A strong self-esteem provides fluidity and congruence between who you are and the life that reveals itself with each new day. Your days will begin to be present, because you are living your life.
